by Sofia Burckhardt, AmeriCorps VISTA, Casa Grande Alliance
The holidays are a wonderful time to slow down and focus on the things that truly matter, like quality time with loved ones. However, it can be easy to lose sight of the true meaning of the holidays with the stress of hosting parties, buying gifts, and the pressure to appear “picture perfect” to others in person and on social media.
Neda Gould, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist, and director of the Johns Hopkins Mindfulness program, offers these four tips on how to stay mindful and focused on what really matters to you.
Accept imperfection
Remembering that imperfection is natural and normal can relieve the pressure of the fictitious perfect holiday season. It is important not to set impossible standards for ourselves. Things may not always go as planned, but doing things with love and intention always makes them great.
Focus on what matters
Keeping things in perspective can keep us in the moment and enjoying things for what they are. Redirecting negative thoughts as they happen can keep us from stressing out and remind us to enjoy the day-to-day. If the grocery store is jam-packed and the lines are long, focus on the excitement the holidays bring to you and the people shopping around you. Take the extra time in the line as an opportunity to reflect on what you’re grateful for and how you can positively affect those around you with a warm interaction or a kind gesture.
Respond with kindness
Reminding ourselves that others also are experiencing distress and pressure helps us respond with love and compassion that can turn someone’s bad day around. Take the time to take deep breaths, remember that everyone is dealing with something, and strive to have a positive interaction.
Rethink your resolutions
Start off with small obtainable goals to keep yourself more likely to achieve them. A good example would be to focus on eating healthier and taking care of your body instead of making it a goal to lose weight rapidly. Be kind to yourself! Acknowledge that you will not always be perfect and keep trying.
Celebrate the holidays by taking care of yourself. The holidays are a great time to recharge and spend time with loved ones. Make it count by being your best and most present self!
